Everyone on earth had two parents. Should you be fortunate enough, your parents will still be around when you start raising a family yourself one day. Having your parents in the house when you have small children could unluckily also be a source of unhappiness and conflict.

There are many advantages of grandma and grandpa living with their children. In the first place, the grandchildren won’t be alone at home the whole day. Secondly there will always be someone at home, which obviously is better for security reasons. Grandpas and grandmas normally love gardening, so there will always be someone to water the garden.

A large number of the problems experienced by children in this regard is because of grandparents interfering with the way they raise their children. Many couple also realize too late that they suddenly have no privacy any more. That is the reason why you should seriously think of making a very good long term investment: build a separate granny flat on the premises for your parents where they can continue with their own lives.

Make sure it has its own kitchen, so your mother can still cook for her and your father. Equip it with everything she needs, including an oven. A good quality delonghi oven will last for many years and is unlikely to ever need much maintenance.

Also make sure that the flat is easily accessible. When you are young and healthy, you tend to forget that your father suffers from leg arthritis and find it difficult to climb stairs, for example. A ramp for wheelchair access is a good idea, even though they might both still be healthy at the moment.

Then allow them to spend some time with the grandchildren. You absolutely have to compromise here. It’s terrible for elderly people if their children cuts them off from their grandchildren. Once in a while take the baby bath to your parent’s flat and allow grandma to give a hand during the bathing ritual – it will remind her of the days when you were young and make her feel needed again.

Sometimes your parents will want to go with when you take a drive and you want to be alone with your partner and the children. Refusing to take them along on such an occasion will do harm to your relationship and make them feel unwanted. A solution is to have regular family days where both grandpa and grandma go along to spend quality time with their children and grandchildren.

Remember: you are also going to get old. The way you treat your parents now is carefully watched by your own children. If you treat your parents without respect, this will come back to haunt you one day, perhaps when you least expect it.

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