The word marriage conjures up images of a happy couple dressed for their wedding day under a shower of rice. They each have their own expectations for a happy life together which may include raising a family. And then after a few years, the unexpected happens and your find yourself single again. Now you have kids to raise by yourself.

The Stress and Strain of Single Parenthood

Going through a death of a spouse or a divorce causes a huge burden for families. The remaining parent now has to wonder how they can manage on their own. The children are equally stressed. They experience a level of sadness from losing one of their parents. Earning a living, bearing all of the burden of raising a family, and maintaining the house has caused strain on the remaining parent, which they can see.

This is the time to understand that the best that you can do is good enough. You are human and that is all that’s expected. Focus on creating an atmosphere of love and stability for your children. Their world has changed, and they need to know that you love them and you are there to support them.

The Anger of Divorce and its Affect on the Children

Don’t say negative things about your ex in front of the children, no matter how bad the divorce may have been. Do your best to spin a positive angle on the situation to instill a sense of security in your children’s mind. Let them know that they will be fine and they are loved. Let them know that the absent parent loves them too.

Anger will only make the situation worse for your children. It will also keep the pain bottled up inside you. You should think of this as a new chapter of adventures as a single parent. Stop reliving the pain and look forward to a happier future.

If you can try to provide a sense of normalcy and security by surrounding your kids with familiar relatives. Normally grandparents can give this support. Let your kids see your ex’s family as well, after all they are still their grandparents. Depending on your situation, this can be hard on you. However, after the child has lost one parent to death or divorce, keeping them away from other close connections can add to the misery.

Overall, Your kids need to be loved by you. It wont make a difference that the love is only coming from one parent now. Love is magical, you can never run out of love for your children.

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